Archive for Communication Skills

Expressing Feelings


Recently, a new client arrived with some anxieties about ‘having to lay down on my couch and be analysed while I scribble secret notes on my notepad and thoughtfully rub my chin’ (being female, I don’t have a beard to thoughtfully stroke) and this got me to thinking about the movie and media stereotypes of psychotherapists…. Cue Sigmund Freud lookalike with strong Austrian accent saying “and how does that make you feel…?”

Now although this is not a true reflection of a typical therapy session and as cliche as this view may be, if I stop and think about it, it’s rare that we talk about our feelings on a day to day basis. Read more

It’s good to talk

It’s good to talk using Open Ended Questions

Questions: Whether they are “open” or “closed”, they can help a person open up or help to close them down.

A closed question is one used to gather specific information – it can normally be answered with either a single word or a short phrase. An open ended question is one that is used in order to gather lots of information – you ask it with the intent of getting a long answer. So basically, open ended questions have no correct answer and require an explanation of sorts.
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